Neil (Ben Affleck) loves Beth (Jennifer Aniston) but refuses to marry. This explores the conflict between genuine love and a refusal to follow social milestones.

Most people believe they are the exception to the rule (the one for whom he’ll finally change), but the guide argues you should always assume you are the rule .

Gigi (Ginnifer Goodwin) overanalyzes every text and call. Her mentor, Alex (Justin Long), teaches her that if a guy hasn't called, it's because he doesn't want to.

A lack of contact or a refusal to commit is a clear signal in itself. 2. Relationship Archetypes (From the Movie)

The 2009 film illustrates different stages of "not being into it" through its ensemble cast: